Friday's Gratitude - Regaining Balance

"Never solve a problem from its original perspective".- Charles Thompson

This week I met a friend for lunch and our conversation quickly turned to an area of commitment that for me of late has felt extremely unbalanced…. And worst of all was the feeling that I was somewhere out in left field with my feelings, out of the loop, and the uncomfortable possibility that I was the only one having these thoughts of disconnect and frustration.

As the conversation wove its way through the hour, I began to understand that I am not alone in my frustrations, and my observations were not off target (in other words, I’m not crazy!). The more we talked, the more I started to gain clarity and a renewed sense of balance and perspective as to how I want this commitment to fit into my life… and for those insights, I am thankful.

Friends and communication go hand in hand – use them to help you rebalance when needed – it feels good.

"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony." Thomas Merton

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